I have too much stuff. I have so much stuff that I have no place to put stuff, and I can never find my stuff among the piles of stuff. Every few months I would decide to clean out a drawer or a cabinet or a desk, but I would get overwhelmed looking it at. Sometimes I'd make a start but have trouble deciding what to do with everything. I would pick up an item and think that I might want it someday, or that it would look great in a room after I redecorate in a few years, or I would think that it's something that people just need to have, and I would put it down again.
Dana came in and helped. We talked about how I use the rooms in my house; what I do there and what I want to do there, and how I want to feel there. We started on the kitchen, and she worked with me to decide what the space should be. She coached me through the process and helped me keep only the items that would help me use the space the way I wanted to. For every item we picked up, she challenged me - does this fit my goals? Do I use it? Have I? Will I? Does it make me happy? Does it make me more happy than all this clutter makes me unhappy? Then she helped me organize the room based on how I really use it (my bakeware is now next to the stove, my small appliances near outlets).
HGTV makes this all look so easy, but it's not. If it were easy we'd all have done it by now. I know for myself, I can't do it on my own. I need someone there to coach me on it, for every spatula. And I cried during the process, honestly, because a lot of it was giving up on the person that I thought I should be. But I'm not a person who bakes four different pies for holidays, and every time I opened a cabinet and saw those pie pans collecting dust I felt a little bit like a failure. So getting rid of it was like therapy - coming to terms with the person I am and the way I live and the things I do. I'm not Martha Stewart, and that's fine. I don't need to let my stuff make me feel bad.
Again, if I could just do it myself, it would be so easy. But I can't, and you can't. But Dana? Dana can help you do it. And then you can see what you really use and organize that. Live better through having less stuff.
Published August 15, 2013